Posts Tagged With: marriage

Messy Beautiful Love by Darlene Schacht

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In the very first chapter of this book, the author confesses to her husband that yes, she had an affair. Their marriage was broken, so she instantly had credibility to write about Messy Beautiful Love.

In each chapter of this book, I was completely convicted and encouraged at the same time. Darlene did a fabulous job getting back to the basics of marriage. Throughout each subject and area of marriage, she gets to the heart of the problem. And the solution is simple: be more like Christ. Does He keep score? No. He forgives. Does He try to get even? No. He wants best for the other person no matter what. (Note: the author does not suggest women should remain under abuse just to succeed in these areas.)

I have read quite a few marriage books during my 10 years of marriage, and this is one of the best ones on marriage in general. Not much is said about submission. Not too much attention is given to areas of intimacy, although both these things are touched on. She simply paints a picture of Christ and the church, and how our marriages should be a reflection.

Highly recommend!

I was given a free copy of this book by the publisher, in exchange for an honest review.

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He Wins She Wins by Willard Harley

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This was one of the most interesting marriage books I’ve ever read. The subtitle “Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation” gives a little hint to the bulk of the book.

Marriages are failing. It is so sad to see that those who actually do decide to marry, instead of just live together, have little chance of having a happy marriage, or even a decent marriage. With every passing generation, it seems that individuals are becoming more selfish. And that shows in their marriages.

Mr. Harley introduces a new method of solving arguments. Most of the time, the advice given to married couples is to compromise when it’s not “too important,” or to sacrifice because you love your spouse. But the method you will find in these pages both wowed me, and puzzled me!

He says you should BOTH reach an enthusiastic agreement to each and every problem that arises in your marriage. The main point is that if you both HAVE to be happy about the way the problem is solved, it will teach you to think of the other’s feelings, and not just your own. And that is good.

The down side to me is this: every now and then, I like a moms’ night out with some friends. My husband is not thrilled about spending an evening home with the children without me. But because he knows it is good for me, he agrees. Now, I know he is happy, but his happiness is only for me, not for himself. The author says this is not good for marriage because the spouse will eventually get tired of “sacrificing.” There are also things like this, that my husband does away from home. I am never “enthusiastic” about him being away, but I know it’s good for him. So, that is why I am puzzled. I just don’t see how it’s possible to agree enthusiastically about everything. I think some sacrifice and compromise is occasionally necessary in marriage.

However, the book targeted several problems in marriage: finances, kids, in-laws, etc. It was full of very good advice, and I feel it would greatly benefit any married couple.

On sale now in your favorite Revell bookstore, a division of Baker Publishing.

I received the book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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The Promise by Dan Walsh and Gary Smalley

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Written by two great authors, this was a romance novel different than any other. In most novels, two people meet and fall in love, and the story ends there. Instead, this one picks up in the middle, with a marriage well underway, complete with children, and the stresses of life. Tom has a dark secret he feels he can’t tell Jean. So on it goes, month after month. He knows he needs to tell her, but he just can’t bring himself to do it. All the while, Jean feels she is losing her husband and maybe he is being unfaithful. But she has a little secret of her own which can only complicate things.

As the story goes on, you see a family’s love. You can see how they have all made past mistakes and are trying to undo the bad legacy they have created with a new one filled with hope, and of following God.

This was a sweet story, and one I could more relate to since it’s the middle of a marriage, not just the starry-eyed newlyweds. A very good read!

On sale in your favorite Revell bookstore now!

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Joni & Ken: an Untold Love Story

This is an incredible, memoir-style, encouraging book. Written together by Ken and Joni Tada, it encompasses many years of their amazing life together. If you thought marriage was tough, be ready for a reality check for in these pages you will be acquainted again and again with tragedies that threaten to sink all those in its wake.

Joni’s life has always been anything but normal so why should her marriage be any different? From the time they started dating, Ken and Joni both knew it would be difficult. They knew it would be hectic. They knew it would be overwhelming. They also knew it would be worth it.

Their story makes Jesus seem so close and so personal. It is precious. It is priceless. This book will put things in perspective, and offer hope. It will challenge you to a closer walk with the Lord. A must read!

I received the book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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