She’s Twelve Going on Twenty by Kim Camp

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This was one of my first “daughter” books to read. I have read several books on raising boys, but not as many on girls. Kim Camp gives a good overview of a young girl’s life. She divides the book into 3 sections: your daughter’s spirit, your daughter’s soul, your daughter’s body. It is well-organized and has wonderful ideas to put the ideas into practice and make it part of your everyday life, instead of just a bunch of ideas you’re not sure how to apply!

The spirit section covers what your daughter believes about God, and how you help her in that area. As she grows up, she will likely have questions about other types of religions, and even difficult questions about God’s existence, and about the Bible. She may make other friends who believe differently. The author wisely suggests never “shooting down” her questions, but to approach her gently and go to the Bible together to discover why we believe what we believe, and why we wouldn’t participate in other religions.

The soul section has chapters on friends, boys, and peer pressure. It has a wide array of stories of others who have gone through difficulties, and how different teen girls approach certain situations. Again, there is much practical advice.

The body section talks about drugs, sex, and even eating disorders. Our girls are faced with so much in the media and entertainment today, and it is easy for her to get a false image of how she “should” look. I loved the author’s advice for you and your daughter to make lists of what the ideal woman should act and look like. Then you can compare them and see which ones are really important.

One of the resounding themes throughout this book is listening. It is SO important to listen to our daughters. They have so many emotions and feelings, and they need you to help them work through them. There is also mention of a “safe box.” When you employ this ideal you simply draw a square on a piece of paper and tell your daughter that no matter what she writes here, she will be safe. She will never be belittled because of this. It is a great way for her to open up and tell you things she’s been afraid of.

I definitely recommend this book and will probably pull it back off the shelf for a second read when my daughters get older!

I received the book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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