Monthly Archives: October 2013

She’s Twelve Going on Twenty by Kim Camp

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This was one of my first “daughter” books to read. I have read several books on raising boys, but not as many on girls. Kim Camp gives a good overview of a young girl’s life. She divides the book into 3 sections: your daughter’s spirit, your daughter’s soul, your daughter’s body. It is well-organized and has wonderful ideas to put the ideas into practice and make it part of your everyday life, instead of just a bunch of ideas you’re not sure how to apply!

The spirit section covers what your daughter believes about God, and how you help her in that area. As she grows up, she will likely have questions about other types of religions, and even difficult questions about God’s existence, and about the Bible. She may make other friends who believe differently. The author wisely suggests never “shooting down” her questions, but to approach her gently and go to the Bible together to discover why we believe what we believe, and why we wouldn’t participate in other religions.

The soul section has chapters on friends, boys, and peer pressure. It has a wide array of stories of others who have gone through difficulties, and how different teen girls approach certain situations. Again, there is much practical advice.

The body section talks about drugs, sex, and even eating disorders. Our girls are faced with so much in the media and entertainment today, and it is easy for her to get a false image of how she “should” look. I loved the author’s advice for you and your daughter to make lists of what the ideal woman should act and look like. Then you can compare them and see which ones are really important.

One of the resounding themes throughout this book is listening. It is SO important to listen to our daughters. They have so many emotions and feelings, and they need you to help them work through them. There is also mention of a “safe box.” When you employ this ideal you simply draw a square on a piece of paper and tell your daughter that no matter what she writes here, she will be safe. She will never be belittled because of this. It is a great way for her to open up and tell you things she’s been afraid of.

I definitely recommend this book and will probably pull it back off the shelf for a second read when my daughters get older!

I received the book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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Fun Gender Reveal for Baby #4!

We found out in April that God was giving us another little blessing! We are excited and thankful!

From the beginning of our marriage, I always thought I would love to be surprised with the gender if I already had a boy and a girl. That way, I would already have the “stuff” and could just sit back. But, I just couldn’t hold out…none of us could! So, we decided to do a fun gender reveal.

I scoped the internet and pinterest for fun ideas. Here we go…

On ultrasound day, it was so hard not to peek. The technician went for the gender right away. Baby was in a great position, so she had us close our eyes for a minute or two. As soon as she wrapped up the ultrasound, she put the sweet surprise in an envelope. All that held the envelope closed was a tiny piece of tape! Ahh! It was so hard not to open it! When we got to the car, I held it up to the light to try to cheat! I know, I know! Pretty desperate! But thank goodness, I couldn’t see!

A sweet friend asked if she could please help with the reveal, so I said “Sure!” She came over a few days later, and took some pictures and pulled off the whole shebang for us!

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It was so fun! The cans of silly string were wrapped with paper, and decorated. We each had one in our hands. Camera ready, go!

IMG_3954 Edit ReadyAt first, I couldn’t tell what color the string was! It looked white! But when I looked up in the trees, I could see the PINK!

“Ahhh! It’s a girl!” I said!

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IMG_3975Jackson said, “I wish it was a boy.”

Kids! 😉

Thank you to Cassie King for the beautiful pictures, and hard work! You really made our day special!

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Under a Blackberry Moon by Serena B. Miller

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This is the sweet story of a young Chippewa woman who finds love in more ways than one. Moon Song married a white man, much to the dismay of her elderly grandmother. Years earlier, Moon Song’s own mother had also married a white man and he had broken her heart, causing her early death. After Moon Song was grown and married to her own white man, she was widowed, and being far from home, she stumbled into a logging camp with a tiny newborn. She meets kind Christian people who help and love her. But she can’t stay forever. It’s time to go back to her own people.

Skypilot, nicknamed for his profession, agrees to see that Moon Song gets home safely, so they board a steamer and head up the Great Lakes. But tragedy strikes, and the two of them find themselves in the wilderness, struggling to survive.

Will this bring them closer, or drive them apart? There’s definitely a spark between them. But they have different faiths, and completely different cultures? Will Moon Song come to know the true God? Can Skypilot accept the ways of her people?

This is a fascinating read. Though the book is fiction, I was saddened to know that some of its contents were based on true stories. And the Indians were faced with very harsh treatment time after time.

The love story ends as one would suspect, but there is a twist at the end that makes the story so precious. Great book!

On sale now in your Revell bookstore, a division of Baker Publishing.

I received the book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

 

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He Wins She Wins by Willard Harley

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This was one of the most interesting marriage books I’ve ever read. The subtitle “Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation” gives a little hint to the bulk of the book.

Marriages are failing. It is so sad to see that those who actually do decide to marry, instead of just live together, have little chance of having a happy marriage, or even a decent marriage. With every passing generation, it seems that individuals are becoming more selfish. And that shows in their marriages.

Mr. Harley introduces a new method of solving arguments. Most of the time, the advice given to married couples is to compromise when it’s not “too important,” or to sacrifice because you love your spouse. But the method you will find in these pages both wowed me, and puzzled me!

He says you should BOTH reach an enthusiastic agreement to each and every problem that arises in your marriage. The main point is that if you both HAVE to be happy about the way the problem is solved, it will teach you to think of the other’s feelings, and not just your own. And that is good.

The down side to me is this: every now and then, I like a moms’ night out with some friends. My husband is not thrilled about spending an evening home with the children without me. But because he knows it is good for me, he agrees. Now, I know he is happy, but his happiness is only for me, not for himself. The author says this is not good for marriage because the spouse will eventually get tired of “sacrificing.” There are also things like this, that my husband does away from home. I am never “enthusiastic” about him being away, but I know it’s good for him. So, that is why I am puzzled. I just don’t see how it’s possible to agree enthusiastically about everything. I think some sacrifice and compromise is occasionally necessary in marriage.

However, the book targeted several problems in marriage: finances, kids, in-laws, etc. It was full of very good advice, and I feel it would greatly benefit any married couple.

On sale now in your favorite Revell bookstore, a division of Baker Publishing.

I received the book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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